Why did I have to say that?
I could have just kept my mouth shut.
But I didn't. I had to respond.
If I'm honest with myself there's always a split second before I respond that I can choose. As much as I try to deny responsibility, I have the ability to pause and think before I speak. I just don't always do it.
Sometimes I find it easy to pause in the heat of the moment. Sometimes I don't (especially in arguments with my wife).
I've come to find (through innumerable failures) that my ability “to pause" varies in length depending on my current spiritual fitness. The more dialed in I am with God, the longer I can pause.
The longer I pause almost always means a better outcome. I’m granted just enough added time to better assess the situation, control my emotions, and ask God for guidance.
I don’t know about you, but every second counts for me. With a temper like mine, I need all the extra time I can get.
It could be the difference between sleeping in my own bed or sleeping on the couch. 😂
“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather it is "timing" it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles and in the right way.”
-Venerable Fulton Sheen